Shy guys what is it like

Nope, they just have to meet the perfect woman under the perfect circumstances, where they'll be guided by rails with no room to screw up. They have thoughts such as: "Well I didn't meet any women this semester. Maybe in next semester's classes I'll randomly end up sitting beside the person of my dreams", or "Maybe at my job the woman I like will be assigned to work on a project with me all day", or "Maybe this time when I go to the bar and just stand around all night a woman will walk up and seduce me.

When a guy is shy and inexperienced with women he usually isn't immersed in female company or the dating and hook up scene. He may also be socially inexperienced or isolated in general, because he likes to keep to himself or doesn't have a ton of friends.

That means shy guys get their ideas of what dating and relationships are like from sources like movies, TV shows, the internet, and snippets of conversation they've heard from other people. Shy guys can develop a caricatured, romanticized view of relationships, because they've seen too many romantic comedies or high school dramas with Hollywood endings.

According to their "education" the beautiful cheerleader always wants a caring, sensitive guy who likes her for her. The female lead wants a nice guy to save her from the all the jerks she normally attracts. Women are sweet, innocent creatures that need to be nurtured. Shy guys have a blind spot for the reality that some women might get drunk and make out with a hot guy just for the hell of it, or that they could have a friend with benefits, or that they would want to casually date a few people at once.

This can make shy guys pretty clueless about dating protocol. People in a guy's age group may not even really "date" in the classic sense at all, but he wouldn't know it because that's what people do in the movies and on TV. They may wonder things like: "How exactly do you ask a woman out? Continuing on the theme of having an over-romanticized view of dating: When a shy, inexperienced guy finds a woman he likes, his thoughts often aren't, "She seems fun.

Maybe we can hang out a few times and see where it goes. She's my dream girl. I just want to cuddle her by the ocean for hours as we watch the shooting stars above. Boy, better not screw that one up.

Since they don't try to create their own options, whenever a half-decent woman comes into the life of a shy guy through school, work, or his social circle, his mind immediately leaps to, "Could this be the one??? Is this the woman I'll end my streak of loneliness with? They'll quickly get infatuated and preoccupied, constantly wondering if it's going to all work out with her. What's weird is, objectively these women often aren't even that appealing to the shy guy, or he obviously wouldn't be her type.

However, because they have so few options, and are so desperate to meet someone, any minimally friendly woman they meet instantly becomes a possibility.

They almost have to like these women, what other choice do they have? If it later seems like things won't work out - which is likely since he's just invested a throwaway casual interaction with too much meaning - he'll get demoralized. But it won't be long before he's fixated on a new person. I think women should be aware that just by being friendly, even in the most offhand way, to a shyer guy, he may start seeing you as a prospect.

He may even get a semi-obsessive crush on you. It's not that you sent him any signals, just that any woman he comes across offers a chance to end his Forever Alone status and his mind reacts to this a little too excitedly and desperately. Most of this article has described a sweet, naive flavor of shy guy, but I had to cover this darker point too. Not every man who's shy and inexperienced with women eventually becomes a hateful misogynist.

Some are well-adjusted, healthy people, aside from their nerves around dating. Some stay wholesome and innocent in their attitude about relationships. But a few can go down an angrier road after feeling like they've failed in their love lives for too long. Some common themes in their anger: "Women have it way easier in the dating world. That's opposed to shy dudes who have flown under the radar, or even had plenty of interest and opportunities they just didn't have the guts to act on.

Of course, it's not just inexperienced, awkward men who can become bitter sexists. Guys who sleep around a lot aren't exactly known for their enlightened attitudes toward women. You can't always tell, but often if you talk to a shy guy long enough you'll be able to tell if he's of the resentful variety. He may have a slightly hostile vibe, or it won't be long before he makes a questionable chauvanistic remark.

You've probably lost any interest you might have had at this point. If you're speaking with a man and your gut tells you he's a decent person, but just hasn't dated much, it's often right. Here's what I think they are, maybe you can figure out some other ones: If you want to get to know a shy guy, it may be easier to talk to him yourself.

If he seems awkward, be persistent and try talking to him again a few more times. If you seemed to hit it off with a guy, but now he's acting strange and hesitant to talk to you, he may be shy or it could be for any of the other reasons two people seem to hit it off but then one doesn't follow up on it If a guy is nervous or insecure around you for whatever reason, just cut him some slack, don't draw attention to it, and he'll calm down eventually.

Even though you may be sending obvious hints, and even if he does understand them, you can't necessarily count on him to ask you out or kiss you himself. It may be easier for all involved if you make the first move. Don't expect a shyer guy to necessarily get concepts like, "We just hung out twice, and fooled around once, that doesn't mean we're a couple now.

If you think a guy you like is inexperienced then do him a favor and do nothing whatsoever to draw attention to it. Don't give him an opportunity to get all freaked out and insecure over what a supposed pathetic virgin he is. If you think a guy is inexperienced, you may want to take the same approach to your own past experiences. Just don't bring them up and potentially give him something to worry about. A good sign that a shy guy likes you is if he gets nervous around you.

When you like someone, your coordination and generally cool demeanor can temporarily abandon you. This is even more so the case for the shy guy. Your presence will literally paralyze him if he's into you. Does he drop his phone, his keys, spill on himself, and lose his cool around you?

Does he touch up his hair, scratch his face, twirl his fingers, or get fidgety whenever you come close to him? These are definite signs that he likes you, but feels self-conscious in your presence, leaving him a bag of jitters. But he can't help admiring you from afar. You will find him staring at you from across the room, but he looks away in the instant you look at him. Experts say it isn't the level of his stare that indicates his attraction for you, but the frequency.

So, if you catch him staring at you more than a few times, it's a dead giveaway that he's attracted to you. Also, you might notice he will try to make eye contact with you immediately before he steps out of the room, even when he's with his friends. People touch the people they like. While a shy guy will not muster the courage to touch you, he will engage in the form of touching called preening.

For example, he picks lint off your hair and straightens out your jacket. Touching is a good indicator that he likes you.

He will, therefore, have difficulties getting the words out if he really likes you. Or, he will blank out in the middle of a sentence and is left tripping over words and making little sense. Experts call this behavior mirroring. Mirroring sends unconscious signs from a guy to a woman that he likes her. Watch his gestures closely: even from across the room, he will unconsciously copy your actions.

If you pick up your drink to have a sip, he will do the same. If you shift in your seat, he will, too. When a shy guy is around you, he suddenly clams up. He will be talking animatedly to his friends, but the moment he sees you, he will suddenly go quiet. What a coincidence that his story gets finished every time you walk in, right?

The reason is that the guy either loses his train of thought or doesn't want you to hear what he thinks is a silly story, and for you to then think he is silly, too.

He wants to impress you so his brain gets ahead of him, and he forgets to talk. A shy guy may not be big on romantic gestures, but he will do random little things for you. Does he offer things like gum, water or a donut? The shy guy you know is only a friend but you want him to be more than a friend. Or, perhaps you're dating a shy guy and looking for tips so that he might fall head over heels in love with you. All guys and girls fall in love the same way -- through a chemical process that makes them feel euphoric and giddy, says Maryanne Fisher, Ph.

It is a delicate balancing act, but worth the effort to develop a lasting relationship. A shy guy may be reluctant to approach you, even if he is romantically interested. Shy individuals tend to doubt themselves, which can interfere with meeting new people, starting conversations and asking for dates. In the article, "8 Best Flirting Tips," psychologist Diana Kirschner recommends that you take the lead to show a guy that you are looking to take things to the next level.

If the shy guy is someone you haven't met, introduce yourself and start up a conversation. If he is a friend you would like to turn into a romantic interest, drop hints like telling him about a movie you want to see.

If you are already dating a shy guy, take the initiative to kiss him first. Show him you want to know about him, too. You can do this by asking a lot of questions. What are you waiting for? You like him and want to see if the two of you can hook up. You may have to do all the work if you want to show a shy guy that you like him back. Start by showing him appropriate non-verbal cues. Face him, sit next to him, touch his arm lightly, smile at him, and try to maintain eye contact for about 3 seconds.

Any longer and he may become uncomfortable. You just want to give him a hint that you are into him, too. Next, you should say something to him. Before even talking to him, find out what his passions and hobbies are so that you can casually ask him questions about them. You may want to start with easy yes or no questions so as not to intimidate him. Once you are there, though, ask him more open-ended questions to get him to open up more.

Flirt with him by liking his social media posts or by touching his shoulder. Ask him for help with something. This will help build his courage to be more open with you. Finally, ask him out, but keep the convo casual. Maybe text him that you like him. His body language can tell if a shy guy likes you. He may not feel confident enough to say anything, but if you watch his body language closely, you should see a pattern.

Instead, let him know you like him by touching his arm, talking to him, being around him, or even just flat out telling him you want more than friendship. Many shy guys will act clumsy or blush when they are around the girl they like. They pay attention to the little details about you. They may ask you questions because they want to know you better. Talk to them about anything, show them your interest by touching their shoulder, or telling a joke.

What signs do you know to tell if a shy guy likes you? Are you a shy person? What did you think of my list? Please tell us your experiences and tips in the comment section below and share this article! I was upset about the loss of a family member and my guy friend saw me and pulled up in his truck, pulled over got out and asked me if I was okay then we talked for awhile and he consoled me by rubbing my upper arm and shoulder a few times.

Then patted me on my back.